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The following is taken from an email I wrote a guy that I had been training.
Muscles are only part of the picture, real life is about your smile, body language, mannerisms and personality. On social media it may be about the pic showing muscles, or whatever, but there is so much more to you than that.
If we are unhappy with our body, and think that we can become happy with it by improving a few bits - we need to be very careful, as it may not be that simple
I do not mean improving a few bits - that can be relatively straight forward. I am meaning the happy feeling, as the danger is that once you make one improvement there will be something else that you look at which isn't quite right. Then you may say - oh I'll just improve that then I'll definitely be happier, and so it goes on. especially when there is always someone with a better body to compare yourself too! And that I can guarantee - there will always be someone with bigger or better muscles.
Instead of just relying upon the
physical change to make you happy - also try and work on your
thoughts - how you feel about yourself. You already have a fantastic
body and you look great - your body works and it looks just as it should do.. I appreciate you may have small improvements
that you'd like to make - we all do to some degree, and that is fine
but you need to realise what you have already. Instead of focus being upon the bad parts - find something you quite like about your body, mannerisms or personality and focus upon that.
Do remember what other people see in you is different to what you are maybe seeing. On Instagram people may see the same as you see in a pic of you, but remember you are just one of many pics on Instagram and maybe looked at for seconds by people who may not even know you. What matters is the people that actually know you and what they see is the whole package of you - for example you look great and you are a warm, friendly guy which to most counts for far more than a few muscles, plus your body language, your smile, your personality. I could list loads of stuff that you have that others may not. Much of this stuff - such as your mannerisms you will not see, but it is, as big a part of you as your muscles, maybe more.
I can guarantee you that you could find someone that has more defined muscles than you and less fat - but put the two of you together and most people in real life would probably rate you higher due to all the other great things about your body and your personality. Maybe on an Instagram pic it would be different - but who cares about this fake world of social media - if you really think about it what counts is real life as if you saw half of these people with their great body in real life you'd probably find them to not be very attractive at all when you add everything else in.
So what you have is so much more precious than a few muscles. The fact that you have a great body - that functions and looks pretty much as it should - this, on top of everything else that you have is just the icing on the cake.